Written By Ambar Fiaz
It is an old saying, which holds good in every sphere of life. It means that a person’s first duty is to help the members of his own family. Any act of goodness can be in the right direction only if it spreads goodness all around, but a good act must be started from one’s own environment. Everybody should do good for his family members first. Charity to others at the cost of starvation at home cannot be appreciated. If a man ignores his family members and does good to others, he is most likely to be an object of ridicule. The family members are the first chair on one’s resources. If somebody is in a position to do some good or to extend some help or assistance-monetary or otherwise others, he must see to it that the members of his family are not left in deprivation. It is only after the needs of the members of the family are fully met, the help and assistance may be distributed among others. Here, too, there is a comparative priority- relations, friends, community circle, and so on and so forth.
If we take the case of social reform, a man should first try to introduce reform in his own family. Instead, if without reforming his own family, he tries to reform others, people will not listen to him. He would rather end up in failure. It does not carry any weight if a chain smoker advises others to give up smoking while he himself does not give up the same. It is better that if one presents his own example. Philanthropists donate to educational institutions, hospitals and orphanages. But before doing so, they must try to satisfy the needs of their family, relatives, friends and community. A doctor must attend to the health problems of his own family members before extending medical advice or assistance to others.
‘Charity begins at Home’ also means that unless a person is good to his own family members, he cannot be expected to be good to others. The reasons are obvious. Family is the core of one’s life and is the immediate environment. The first responsibility of a man is towards his family. A man is always more sincere to his own family than to any other person. A normal man cannot overlook or ignore the family ties and responsibilities. If somebody proves himself an exception, he is likely to be mocked at or looked down upon by others.
All good acts must have their beginnings from one’s own home, family or environment. Nobody cleans others house before he has cleaned his own. Before lighting a candle in the temple one does light up his own house. Before feeding others one does feed his own family members. For all acts of goodness, one’s family has the first claim. One cannot rather do good things to others in a successful manner if one ignores one’s own family in that regard.
This expression is equally applicable in the international field. Every country has primary responsibility for its own people. It can do good to the whole world only after it has met the requirements of its own people. A country committed to the removal of poverty in the world must try to remove poverty of his own people. Beginning of disarmament must be made by the country itself before making a plea for world disarmament. It is no gain to call upon the people of the world to abjure war if the country or the leader making this plea does not believe in peace.
ABOUT THE WRITER:
Miss Amber Fiaz is one of the bonafide students of Sir Syed Kazim Ali. She has completed her 6 month-course on Online Creative English Writing under his patronage. She has been an avid writer and has happened to write numerous blogs on various topics and issues. Her writing is a reflection of how much difference one can make in society.
Name of the Student: Miss Amber Fiaz
Qualifications: M.S Physics
Total Articles/Blogs: 10
English Coach: Sir Syed Kazim Ali
Course Taken: Online Creative English Writing
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